One Year

One year.  One whole year!  We have come full circle.  We have experienced all the holidays, all the birthdays, all the seasons, all the newnesses that a full year can bring.

All without Pat.  Patrick–my husband, our Papa, our uncle, our brother, our son, our friend, our mentor, our coach, our classmate, our coworker, our competitor, our student, our fellow community member.  He was a lot.  He was everything to me and my children.

I want to write about all his life and death and this past year have been for me.  I do believe I have the strength to do so.  While I’m pondering this task, I’d love to read what others have experienced this year in terms of Pat’s life and death.  With your permission, I’d like to publish your writing to this blog in honor of our dear Pat.

My sister-in-law Sarah puts this writing request so well.  Please read her request and consider sending me your writing.  It will mean so much to me and my children!

Help us celebrate and remember the gift that Pat has been to all of us.  We never want to forget all that he means to us!

One thing that Nancy repeated after Pat’s death, is that she wanted some good to replace his passing.  This past year ‘s journey has been excruciating without Pat, but also, it has not been without unexpected graces and blessings.  We hope that those of you who feel comfortable  will feel free to share with others any reflections you may have about Pat and this past year……

* Are there “Good” or life-giving things that have come from the tragedy of his death?

* Are there things you have done or gone through this past year that you know Pat would be proud of?

* Are there ways you have felt his presence and or help?

* Do you have any “unfinished business” with Pat?  Any sorries you wish you could say? (have said)

* Ways in which Pat is particularly missed, especially after having been without him this past year?

* Are there things you have learned about Pat that you never knew, or things that you learned about yourself in this year?

Love to all!


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  1. Adam Fink

    Uncle Pat. You are the biggest memory in my life as well as carston. I miss you so much. You were such a role model to me. I looked up to you for alot of things. It is no fun without you here, and will never be as much fun without you. I miss you so much. I want you to know that I am thinking of you every minute of my life. Thank you for making my life so wonderful and happy. I am so glad you are my uncle. I love you so much!

    Love, Adam

  2. Mark Veldman


    Patrick always showed a caring and patience in what he did. I saw that as he developed as an Ultimate player, and, later and even more, as he watched Anne coach Tommy in soccer.

    I have really tried to live up to that example in my relations with people in all areas. Everything takes time and with the right amount of patience and nurturing, most things will work out fine.

    I cannot imaginge the emotions that you have felt over the last year. Know that, along with many others, Anne and I think about you and Patrick often, hoping that you will find peace.


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