This is Mary, Nancy’s sister. Nancy has gone for a couple of days to spend some time at a lakeside house with our brother Joe and his family in Michigan. I just talked to her and she and the kids are having a nice time. It’s good that she was able to get out of the house for a little while.
However, as expected, everything she does of course, reminds her of Pat. Last time they were at the beach was when our whole big extended family spent a week at a vacation house not too far away from where Nancy and Joe are now. That was the time Pat and Danny and my son Teddy had their “Navy Seals Workout” on the beach (click to enlarge):
They had so much fun that day, and being at the beach now is very bittersweet for her.
This weekend, in Bristol, IN they are having the Canoe & Kayak Nationals event – Pat and Nancy were supposed to have raced together in a tandem kayak. Nancy and Pat were so looking forward to finally being in a race together. They were looking forward to SO many things — Pat finishing nursing school, getting a job, possibly soon looking for a place of their own, maybe doing some travel nursing and taking their family across the whole country. All of those plans came to a literal screeching halt 3 weeks ago.
I honestly canNOT believe it has been THREE WEEKS since Pat’s accident already. On the one hand, it seems like he was JUST here yesterday, and on the other hand, it already seems like years have passed because we miss him so desperately.
We love Pat so very much and miss him every single minute of the day.
If anyone has time, we would greatly appreciate if you could keep posting on the blog – we want to hear how all of YOU are handling missing Pat, and we would also cherish any memories you have to share about Pat.
Check out Nancy’s recent postings, links in upper left-hand column, that she titled “Continuing” and “Common Circle” and please feel free to share any of your thoughts, feelings, memories. It helps us tremendously just to hear any word from those of you who also love and miss Pat.
We have been so blindsided by the horrible tragedy of Carston’s death (link to his site), and it makes our grief tenfold. We all, and especially Nancy, Amy and Mike, still need your support and words of encouragement and remembrance. Thank you all so much for being there for all of us.