Thoughts

Video 2–With My Own Two Hands

With My Own Two Hands Ben Harper I can change the world With my own two hands Make a better place With my own two hands Make a kinder place With my own two hands With my own With my own two hands I can make peace on earth With my own two hands I can clean up the earth With my own two hands I can reach out to you With my own two hands With my own With my own two hands Im gonna make it a brighter place Im gonna make it a safer place Im gonna

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Video 3–Have Heart My Dear

Have Heart My Dear Snow Patrol I’ll sing it one last time for you Then we really have to go You’ve been the only thing that’s right In all I’ve done And I can barely look at you But every single time I do I know we’ll make it anywhere Away from here Light up, light up As if you have a choice Even if you cannot hear my voice I’ll be right beside you dear Louder louder And we’ll run for our lives I can hardly speak I understand Why you can’t raise your voice to say To think

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Video 4–Beloved One

Beloved One Ben Harper We have both been here before Knockin’ upon love’s door Begging for someone to let us in Knowing this we can agree to keep each other company Never to go down that road again My beloved one My beloved one Your eyes shine through me You are so divine to me Your heart has a home in mine We won’t have to say a word With a touch all shall be heard When I search my hearth it’s you I find My beloved one My beloved one My beloved one You were meant for me I

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Update/Out of Town/Biking

For the next couple of days, I will be out of town staying with Patrick’s family.  I will not have internet access. Yesterday was the arraignment for the driver who killed Pat.  Unfortunately, we waited for 2 hours only to be told it will be postponed until Friday morning.  The full story can be found at WSBT.com. Last Thursday, I attended a bike summit meeting that resulted in the founding of the Bike Michiana Coalition, a great group of energetic and committed people to a safer Michiana for bicycles.  I find their mission to be critical.  Pat’s death serves as

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I still can’t believe Pat is gone

I am Sarah…..married to Joe, Nancy’s brother.  I thought I’d properly identify myself here since I forgot to do so when I shared a little bit about Pat at the reception after his funeral.  I think I felt pressed for time there and only ended up telling a story of paddling with him, and a few other things that quickly came to mind.  In fact, I had papers filled with stories and thoughts on Pat, and Pat and Nancy, but they were not cohesive as a sharing.  So, although I’m still not thinking clearly after shopping at WalMart with my 4

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Arraignment Today

Today was the arraignment for the driver. He pled guilty to two class C felonies: driving while intoxicated and failing to stop at an accident, resulting in death. WNDU did a news segment that captures pretty well how I felt.  Go to the following link and click on the little video camera icon under the main article title to see the video: WNDU Article Love, Nancy

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Arraignment–Tribune Article

The South Bend Tribune printed a good article by Pablo Ros on the whole arraignment situation: Driver:  I was drunk I want so desperately for something good to come of Patrick’s death–I do not want to his death to be in vain. Please consider and discuss with me what we can do in our community about drunk driving and bicycle safety!!!!  Do you have ideas or concerns on either of these issues?  Comment at the end of this post. Nancy

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WSBT Interview

Today WSBT interviewed me.  The article link is here. Look for the box that says: MULTIMEDIA “Watch the Video” Nancy

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Where is Pat?!

I’m typing on my desktop computer back in our bedroom in the dark while my kids are sleeping on mattresses all around me.  The sound of nothing but the pecking keyboard reminds me of Pat.  In the last year, I’d often go to bed earlier than he did, and I’d hear this sound as I’d fall asleep–Pat working hard to finish some school assignment or catch up with some personal emails. My desktop faces a large window with the horizontal blinds closed.  Through one uneven gap in the slatted blinds a bright light suddenly peeks through.  It’s what looks to

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Graduation

Graduation

Pat’s class of accelerated nursing students are graduating this Sunday. The kids and I will be there to receive the diploma in Pat’s place.  Back in May, Pat had the opportunity to wear a cap and gown and participate in IUSB’s main graduation ceremony, although he wasn’t really done with his nursing yet.  He chose to take part in the ceremony so our kids could witness it and see how his hard work paid off.  This Sunday is his “real” graduation. This is one of the hardest aspects of Pat’s death. We’ve been living with my parents for the last

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Drunk Driving

My heart goes out to the family of Carol Ragsdale who died Saturday morning in Mishawaka by another drunk driver. What can be done? I wish this nightmare on no one. There are a few campaigns to help through Mothers Against Drunk Drivers.  One is an ignition interlock for convicted DUI offenders.  To support this campaign you can go here and have a pre-written letter (one that you can edit) sent to: our Governor our Senators our State Representatives Also, the  Automotive Coalition for Traffic Safety (ACTS) and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) are searching for ways to

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New Tribune Opinion

Here’s another “Voice of the People” contribution to the South Bend Tribune.  Please help us keep this issue in the forefront. View other opinions at the “Voice of the People” link above.  I’ve also included the Tribune’s contact information so you can write your own opinion on bike safety or drunk driving. Public Outcry August 21, 2008 I am writing in response to comments in the wake of the recent death of Patrick Sawyer, who was killed after being hit by a car while riding his bicycle. I can now understand the public outcry concerning the need for bicycle lanes

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Pat’s Love, Pat’s Life

Pat’s Love, Pat’s Life

This is Mary – I just wanted to stop by and leave a little note about Pat. Yesterday (Sunday) we went to his pinning ceremony/graduation at IUSB. This was the day that Pat worked so hard for over the past 3 years. This was the day he sacrificed his time with his family for. This was the day he and Nancy dreamed of and looked so forward to. This was the day he finished his nursing education, received his degree and his nursing pin, and if he were still here, this is the day that would have symbolized the beginning

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Grief

Grief is so erratic, so volatile. I realize the *only* way I can healthily survive grief is by experiencing it face on. I have had so many thoughts in the past several days that I want to write about. Writing on this site has been so therapeutic for me. I feel a strong need to stay in touch with the community that has supported me in my darkest hour yet. This grief keeps changing shape. At first it was such a physical pain–I couldn’t eat for weeks, I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t breathe, I could barely walk, I would suddenly

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Another bicyclist died!

I am just sick.  My hands are shaking as I type.  Yesterday, early morning, a 38 year old man, Peter Kaczor,  training for a triathlon, was struck by a car and died at the scene.  My heart goes out to the family!!  I hope I can contact them somehow. Here’s the article in the South Bend Tribune. Sarah Rice of WSBT, did a good news segment “Accidents involving bicycles are on the rise“. Read the comments following the story–lots of needed discussion about bike safety. Nancy

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City of Bikes

Thank you, Heidi, for passing along this YouTube video.  It shows Amsterdam, the “City of Bikes”.  Do you think an American city can ever come close? Nancy

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It feels good to talk

Hi, it’s Tommy again. Thank you, Pam, for telling me about such a great idea to plant a tree for Papa.  There’s a plum tree that’s in our side yard that’s perfect for climbing because it’s hidden away in a bush.  I’m not tall enough to reach the first branch, so I grab the trunk, put my feet on it, and pull myself up to the first branch.  It’s hard even then, but I make it. Then I have a great place to hang out.  Once I dangled my feet off by just holding on with my hands on a

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Moped Driver Killed in Elkhart

More awareness is needed on everyone’s part–drivers, cyclists, pedestrians, mo-peds, wheelchairs!! Here’s the most recent in our community: Man on moped killed in Elkhart collision My sincerest condolences to Garry Holloway’s family.  He was only 28.

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